The simple, 3 step process by which we willingly abandon bliss.
Our first impulse, in dealings with others, is to think “they.”
Initially, I was alone. My beliefs guided my actions – my construct of beliefs guided my overall view of the world. Any dissent that existed amongst those beliefs was reconciled without physical action (talking, moving, fighting).
Then “They” existed.
“They” ruined this atmosphere of congruence of beliefs. Their construct did not inherently bind with mine. My immediate experience of the world was not theirs.
“They”, are the first and most fundamental variable to any equation on which we formulate an ego on which to defend our previously unblemished and un-tested belief system.
My room is no longer a sanctuary – my thoughts and actions are no longer self-explanatory. Formerly non-existent elements of the self take shape and form; these can take action at our relief when a previously unqualified feeling or experience is “qualified”, by the words/actions/reactions/voice/presence of “another”.
Once “They” exist, then “it” does.
The second variable in the equation is “it”. “It”, being the immediate or non-immediate circumstances of a given experience. An office, the lounge, an airport; these are all examples of “it”. “It” gives context to the external situation that is formed when the new self (the self that “They” gave rise to) is born.
It’s better to think … I. I’m not you. I don’t feel what you do – but my ego thinks it does.
Without you, there is no I. Without “Us”, there is no “it” (place).
Eventually, you and I will come to terms with the new atmosphere, and a new climate/system will emerge full of conditions/qualifications and beliefs that are inherently attached to every experience.
These “attachments” burden our experiences and our experience of nothingness (the most sublime state), but we freely forego that state in order that we might experience safety from the potential undermining of our “experience” and “beliefs”.
It’s human nature to create something from nothing as an avenue for pacification. Oddly, peace is achieved, in this instance, through: 1. The willing departure from bliss, and 2. The institution of burdensome qualifications to experience.